This One's For The Girl

It's possible that all labels are curses. Unless they are on cleaning products. Because in my opinion, it's not really a great idea to see people as one thing. Every person has lots of ingredients to make them into a one-of-a-kind creation. We are all imperfect genetic stews. —Holly Goldberg Sloan, Counting by 7s

We're huge fans of the #choosingtolovemyself 18 Day Challenge created by some pretty amazing women, including The Small Seed, Beauty Redefined, and Melanie Burk. The challenge, in a nutshell, is to break the habit of negative self-talk and instead learn to love ourselves exactly as we are, right now. What a novel idea! Why is it so hard to be our own biggest fan?

Now that we're all learning to see ourselves as the fabulously glorious humans that we are, let's throw some love and self-confidence our daughters' way so we aren't back here in a few years doing this same challenge with them. We've rounded up some books we love with strong female characters to help empower young girls. (For a more comprehensive list, we really love this site.) Next week we'll highlight great empowering reads for teens.

One thing Tracy and I know firsthand is that having a strong, supportive friend can make all the difference, so we've added a couple books that highlight positive friendships—helping young girls choose good friends and be one themselves.

OUR HANDS DOWN FAVORITE FOR ANY AGE

The Paper Bag Princess by Robert Munsch

FOR AGES 4-6

Madeline by Ludwig Bemelmans

Olivia and the Fairy Princesses by Ian Falconer

Stand Tall Molly Lou Melon by Patty Lovell

FOR AGES 6-8

Matilda by Roald Dahl

Harriet the Spy by Louise Fitzhugh

The BFG by Roald Dahl

Flora & Ulysses by Kate Dicamillo

FOR AGES 9-12

Esperanza Rising by Pam Muñoz Ryan

I Am Malala: Young Readers Edition by Malala Yousafzai

From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler by E.L. Konigsburg

The Princess Academy by Shannon Hale

The Goose Girl by Shannon Hale

 Book of a Thousand Days by Shannon Hale

BOOKS WITH POSITIVE FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS

Brown Girl Dreaming by Jacqueline Woodson

Counting by 7s by Hollie Goldberg Sloan

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Book Club Monday

Although Geoffrey, Gilbert, and I grew up in this small place in Africa, we did many of the same things children do all over the world, only with slightly different materials....Children everywhere have similar ways of entertaining themselves. If you look at it this way, the world isn't so big.

One of my least favorite chores when I was little was feeding our dogs. Mostly because they were huge and hungry (a St. Bernard and Irish Setter) and would cover me in slobber. Already well on my way to becoming a professional procrastinator, I usually put it off until right before bedtime (sorry pups) and it was a long walk in the dark to their dog house. Trying to preempt anything real from scaring me, I'd allow my imagination to run amok and scare the daylights out of myself—cooking up scenarios where a variety of bad guys were chasing me, making it back to the safety of the house with only seconds to spare.

My late-night dashes and imaginary bad guys were a walk in the park compared to young William Kamkwamba's walks through the forest—in fear of the Gule Wamkulu, a gang of secret dancers, who were said to be the spirits of "dead ancestors, resurrected from the after-world and sent to roam the earth. No longer human, they shared the skin of animals and their faces resembled the beasts of hell—twisted devil birds and demons howling in anguish." Yikes. Add to that the magic lions sent to "kill delinquent debtors," snakes the size of tractors" lying in wait in the fields, or the very real lion that killed his grandmother, and you've got fears my young self couldn't have conjured up on her worst day (even after her older brother thought it would be fun to let her watch a Charles Manson movie).

Clearly, what separates us, and makes the the world seem larger than ever, is our fears. Real and imagined. Yet, when real tragedy strikes in the form of his uncle dying, and William sees his father collapse from the weight of grief, he writes, "It was the first time I'd ever seen my parents suffer, and the sight of it frightened me more than any magic ever could." And just like that, the world isn't very big at all.

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Weekly Wrap-Up

If one asked me to what do I think one must principally attribute the singular prosperity and growing force of this people, I would answer that it is the superiority of its women. —Alexis De Toqueville, De La Démocratie En Amérique

WHAT WE LOVE THIS WEEK

Maira Kalman. I still owe this woman an ode. My ode-owing is stacking up. What I wouldn't give to live next door to her so we could be real friends instead of imaginary ones. And The Pursuit of Happiness is one of my favorites of her books and especially applicable ahead of President's Day. Pick one of these up and you'll not only fall in love with Maira, but our country again. And for your kiddos (and let's be honest, you too), spark their patriotism and knowledge of former presidents with her Looking at Lincoln and Thomas Jefferson: Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Everything.

The #choosingtolovemyself campaign. A few of our favorite instagrammers—Melanie Burk, The Small Seed, and Beauty Redefined—have teamed up with others to make this month of love all about learning to love ourselves and helping our daughters do the same. You can read more about it here. As Maira Kalman wrote: "I call my aunt in Israel. She is 92. And I ask her, 'What is the most important thing?' And she answers, 'Self-confidence.'"

Last minute Valentine's ideas. Because we pretty much operate on last-minute-standard-time. Thankfully, our friends at Caravan Shoppe have us covered. We'll take one of these, and in honor of Tracy's new pup Ringo, one of these as well.

Leo on love: "But the law of loving others could not be discovered by reason, because it is unreasonable." —Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

COMING NEXT WEEK

Finding time to read when there's no time to read. This has become all too real for me these past couple weeks, which is why (cough, cough) that long promised review of When Breath Becomes Air hasn't happened yet. The good news is I finished and happened upon some great tips for finding time to read along the way. It's a win/win.

In honor of the #choosingtolovemyself campaign, we'll feature books every young girl should read.

Our first real book club post of the month. Have you started yet?

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Throwback Thursday

Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.

It’s official: I’ve come off of Cloud 9 to write this post.  My Super Bowl weekend was awesome like Peyton! Clearly, I’m enamored by storybook endings. (Aren’t we all?) But I’m also willing to dwell in reality, so I’ll read the tough but poignant stuff. I have a friend who doesn’t like to read about characters that make poor choices. I might have been scratching my head when she aired those words because we can learn from others’ poor choices, can’t we? Books are teachers.  They’re advocators. They’re illuminators.     

My eyes were opened to the devastating history of war-torn Afghanistan when I read The Kite Runner. Amir, the son of a wealthy Kabal merchant, develops an unlikely friendship with Hassan, the son of his father’s servant.  Their friendship soars as high as the kites they sail in a local kite-flying tournament. Sadly, in a tenuous moment, Amir betrays his friend. Betrayal haunts him indefinitely. But the kite runner learns for himself (and reminds his readers) that wrongs can be righted.  And good can ultimately outmatch evil.   

This moving story teaches me much about redemption—that reclamation is possible if we doggedly chase after it.  Hope runs through this beautiful novel that will make you weep at times, and will make you rejoice at other times.  Maybe, just maybe, you’ll even find a storybook ending.

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The One And Only Crenshaw

Imaginary friends are like books. We're created, we're enjoyed, we're dog-eared and creased, and then we're tucked away until we're needed again.

Crenshaw is my second favorite story about an imaginary friend.  My first is about my Uncle Scott’s make-believe dog, Afro.  (His imagination was by no means politically correct, but it was big—there is that.)  He was just a skinny boy of seven. Afro was good company: he laughed at Scott’s jokes, he was fiercely loyal and equally obedient.  The two were a match made in pet heaven.  

One day Scott walked in with Afro and stood next to his brother who also happens to be my father—the kindest man you’ll ever meet.  Ask Rachel about Craig, she’ll confirm.  But boys will be boys. I’m not sure what prompted my dad to ask Scott where Afro was.  Probably testosterone.  At any rate, when Scott pointed out where his invisible friend sat, my dad stomped on him.  Stomped and then twisted his foot for crushing emphasis.  Scott crumbled to the floor.  He bawled uncontrollably.  His sobs shuddered and his body convulsed. I think it was at that moment that my grandma Dorcas said, “You’ll need to bury Afro.”  Aghast, my father exclaimed, “He’s not real!”  Dorcas gave my dad a matter-of-fact look, and explained, “He is to him.” I can clearly see my teenage father begrudgingly digging a shallow grave for an imaginary dog.  It makes me chuckle every time.  

Are imaginary friends as important as real ones?  Katherine Applegate thinks they are—at least the kind like Crenshaw.  He’s extra large, opinionated, and loyal.  Crenshaw appears when Jackson and his family fall on tough times.  Because Jackson is now a fifth grader and admittedly an “old soul,” he fights the idea of an imaginary friend.  He’s the kind of kid who likes facts, a real scientist in the making.  But Crenshaw is hard to resist.  He’s a black-n-white, San Francisco baseball cap-wearing cat. Pretty easy going. In fact, he doesn’t mind riding on top of the mini-van, especially if he has a few purple jellybeans in tow.  Honestly, Crenshaw won me (and my boys) over. If I didn’t have Rae, I’d probably need a giant cat that skateboards and takes bubble baths to walk me through the hard days.  Maybe Applegate wants all of us to understand that friends matter.  Period.  Real or imagined will work.

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Book Club Monday

No matter how foreign and lonely the world outside, the books always reminded me of home.

It's Book Club Monday and I don't have my book yet. Anyone seeing a pattern here? The good news is I just downloaded it from Audible to start listening until my hard copy arrives. The bad news is that doesn't really help me write a post about it today. Really though, none of us should be thinking about anything but the Bronco's brilliant win yesterday. If Tracy had her druthers, today would be declared National Peyton Manning Day in order for all to revel in his greatness. So that's what we'll do. We'll just revel a little while longer and meet back here tomorrow.

Side note: I just realized there is also The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind: Young Readers Edition. You can have your kids read their version right along beside you!

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Weekly Wrap-Up

This one's for you Tray....

Photo Courtesy of La Ciudad Deportiva

WHAT WE LOVE THIS WEEK

Peyton Manning. I love him but let there be no dispute: Tracy is his hands down, numero uno, ain't-no-one-lovin-him-more fan. She'll be cheering him on from the stands tomorrow and if you know Tray, you know her voice carries—which means her man will know she's there and perform accordingly. Go Broncos!

Birthday books. Hooray for friends who love books! Here's a look at what's been added to my stack: Girl at War, People of the Book, The Japanese Lover, The Martian, and The Art of Hearing Heartbeats. If anyone needs me, I'll be reading.

You can be sure whenever I bring myself to put one of these books down, my page will be marked with this beauty from a dear friend.

Speaking of books and lovelies, another dear friend gave me this print from one of my favorite children's books illustrators, Emily Winfield Martin. Lucky, lucky me!

And look for more inspired posts as I've now got this to jot down any ideas that come my way. A lovely gift from an even lovelier friend.

Book recommendations. A long-time friend I don't see nearly enough of told me about a YA book she loves: Daddy-Long-Legs. I've ordered one up!

Book Gifting. Which is why we updated our Gift Guide to help you find the perfect book for just about any occasion. Bonus: when giving a book, include one of these. There is a space on the back for you to write your favorite quote! My friend Jill went all the way to Vienna to find them, but thankfully she's shared a way we can order one without having to leave the house. Although, I'd still rather go to Vienna.

COMING NEXT WEEK

Tracy's review of Crenshaw.

My review of When Breath Becomes Air. Really.

A real, honest to goodness, bona fide Throw Back Thursday.

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Book Gifting Made Easy

My best friend is a person who will give me a book I have not read. —Abraham Lincoln

We want to make it easy to be everyone's best friend so we've revamped our Gift Guide to help you find the perfect book for any occasion. Need to give a friend a little lift and encouragement? We've got a book for that. Heading to a baby shower? We've got a book for that. Is the mom-to-be an English Lit fan? We've even got ideas for that. But enough from us, head on over and have a look for yourself!