“She was a little all over the place, that was for sure. But the good news is that when she loved, she loved big. And if she loved you, you knew she loved you. You never had to wonder.” —Unknown
I’ve never been called a party pooper. I’m proud of that fact. But sometimes the-every- day-is-a-national-holiday gets overbearing. Not today. I just learned it’s National Girlfriends Day. And while I don’t need a holiday to celebrate my fierce girl friendships—the ones where you “aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world” kind of friendships—I’m always up for a shout out.
It just so happens that I got a package in the mail from Rachel this very day. It was “part 3 of my birthday gift.” Part 3 people! It came with this written note (despite an exquisite birthday message that came with Part 1): “So I just said to Matt that I’ve been trying to pull my life together today and it’s slow going. To which he replied: ‘Well, you’ve spent the last 48 years messing it up so that’s a lot to undo in one day.’” Immediately, I laughed out loud. (Matt’s wit gets me every time.) I laughed again just now, from the gut. It’s obvious I adore Rachel—the reasons are as vast as they are wide—one of them being she doesn’t claim to be perfect. From one who is a little bit all over the place, it’s Refreshing (capital R) that she’s sometimes a little bit all over the place too. It makes me feel normal. It makes me feel right. And nothing, no nothing, can undermine the fact that she loves big. If you haven’t found a girlfriend whose love feels bottomless, keep searching. Don’t stop. Because once you find that friend, you’ll never have to wonder if she loves you.
Here are two fine reads about female friendships in honor of National Girlfriends Day: